New Year’s Goal: Improve without excuses, AND appreciate what you are getting right. AKA– I’m no Betty Crocker, but I still got game.

Here is ONE of the many things I need to work on in 2019. I am at a loss in the kitchen.  I have basic skills.  I can cut, chop, stir, assemble, microwave, make a bowl of cereal, and scramble eggs.  You get the picture.

It’s the day-to-day cooking that gets me.  Some people can just magically budget, plan ahead for shopping, prepare ahead and create a healthy and tasty dinner each night, all with the confidence of Julia Child.  I’m not that person.  By the time I get home from work, I am usually so dog-tired, the last thing I want to do is cook.  So I don’t.

We end up eating something easy.  Something cheap — nutrition-wise and cost-wise.  Everyone eats at different times to fit our crazy schedule.  I then feel horrible — both physically and emotionally.    I continue to have little energy, because I have put ineffective and often artificial fuel into my body.  Making matters worse, I beat myself up for being a poor excuse for a mother who should be providing homemade healthy meals that occasionally involve spinach.

When we do sit down together for something respectable, it’s because my husband is a great chef.  He is the main reason most cooking gets done at our house.

I’m good at a few really important things.  I show up for my kids.  They talk to me and I show them that I trust them to make good decisions.  I’m teaching them to use their own moral compass and to trust themselves.  I support them in their life’s goals.  I’m teaching them to respect themselves and others. In short, I have worked hard to build relationships with my children.

I wouldn’t trade all the cookery skills in the world for the things that I am doing right.   That said, I can improve my cooking AND appreciate all that is going right.  Here’s to more healthy family dinners in 2019 and continuing the conversations.  What are you getting right?  What are your goals for 2019?

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